The life partner (Part 5)
At the end of the fourth part, I said that one of the major causes that destroy households is the wrong choice of the partner.
I heard the teachings that say that concerning the choice of the partner, it totally depends on us because God has given us the freedom to choose. The same teachings want us to believe that we should not include God in the decision to choose our partner. The paradox is that the same preachers say that God has already planned good projects for us (Jeremiah 29: 11) and that we should consult him before taking any decision. It is as if we should include God in all our projects except wedding!
By the way I must point out that marriage is the project that should attract our attention because it is the only project where there is no room for error. If you engage in business with someone and you find out that your partner is no longer reliable or simply you have no desire to continue the business, you are free to walk out and start over. But according to Jesus, it is not that easy in marriage because once committed, we are linked to life except some few exceptions but I will speak about it later in the subject of divorce. Therefore, marriage is sacred and if you read this teaching being single, I advise you to go through. This teaching concerns everyone, divorced and even married who are disappointed in their marriages.
In this teaching, I'll biblically prove that God wants to be involved in the choice of the partner for marriage. If we are children of God and we totally depend on Him, we are supposed to involve him in everything we do. The bible says that God's children are led by the Holy Spirit (Romans 8: 14) and He speaks in many
In Jewish culture (even in Burundian culture), it was the father of the boy who chose his wife. The boy's father inquired to know the family of the girl and especially the behavior and education of the girl. All this in the interest of the household to avoid surprises after the wedding. The boy's father chose for his son because he was more mature and knew better what was needed for his son. If we are children of God, He wants to choose for us because He knows better what it takes for us.
I will mainly refer to the example of the marriage of Isaac (Abraham's son) and Rebecca. The story is found in Genesis 24. The story of Isaac and Rebecca inspired me for my wedding.
In the sixth part, we will see that it is God who has chosen Rebecca accurately.
Chris Ndikumana
