The life partner (Part 16)
About women who have unbelieving husbands, the bible shows how they can win their husbands without even preaching the gospel. In his letter, Peter says, " Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives"(1 Peter 3: 1-2).
According to the bible, the man wants above all to be respected and the woman wants to be loved. If you do not understand this principle, it is extremely difficult to succeed in marriage. Let's see what Paul wrote to the Ephesians: "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her"(Ephesians 5: 22-25)
Men are asked to love their wives and women to be submitted. Why we do not ask a woman to love her husband? There are two answers to this question: First because a woman naturally loves her husband and secondly because the wife’s love is not a priority for the man. A woman can love her husband with all her heart but that love does not matter as long as the husband does not feel respected. The wife’s respect to her husband is interpreted by the man as love.
So, if you are a woman and you want to win the heart of your husband, give him more respect and with time you will get his love and attention. Even the hardest and the most complicated man cannot resist to the respect of his wife because it is a natural need in the heart of the man. If the man does not feel respected, anything can happen because a sense of revolt or frustration is manifested in many ways but often through violence, nervousness and sometimes infidelity or alcoholism. True Christians do not seek refuge in alcoholism or infidelity but violence and aggression in words, depression are the reactions observed.
The verse we just read tells the woman to be submitted in ALL THINGS (Eph 5: 24). The more you are submitted, the greater the love of your husband. Today it is often difficult for women to submit entirely because women sometimes earn more money than their husbands, they have a higher level of education than their husbands, and we even see women who are now President of the entire nation. How does a president woman of a country can entirely submit to her husband? Is she concerned by this verse? What should a man do to win the heart of his wife? The answers will be in the seventeenth party.
Chris Ndikumana
