The life partner (Part 4)
According to 1 Thessalonians 5: 23, a man or woman is made of three parts: body, soul and spirit. With our physical eyes, we can only see the body but we cannot see the soul and spirit. The soul contains emotions, will and intellect and we take all the decisions from the emotions and the will.
Whenever a man sees a woman or a woman sees a man, his eyes give information to the soul and he reacts by means of emotions. The danger is that men and women are often attracted to what they see with their eyes as the eyes cannot penetrate the soul to see what happens inside. This is why boys or girls can easily fall in love based on the physical body and rush to get married in the name of love.
After the wedding, you begin to discover the manifestation of the soul i.e his real character, his flaws which are sometimes unbearable and gradually the feelings of love begin to decrease until the eyes open and the relationship begins to be bitter without forgetting that even the body that would attract you starts to change as we age with time and we change whether we like it or not.
Never make a decision to marry based on the physical body. If your commitment is based on the physical body (legs, shape…), it means that the future of your love is based on physical beauty and the day your partner will lose her/his beauty (age, size change, accident ...) the foundation of your love will succumb.
If you commit yourself in a marriage because a man or woman has money, you build the future of your love on an unstable foundation for the day when you will be broke, marriage will have no foundation and therefore it cannot withstand a storm.
It is extremely important to know that during the engagement period it is difficult to know the girl or boy you want to marry because it is the hunting period where everyone wants to please the other for the win.
The reality is that you have two different souls, which means that you have two different ways of looking at things, you have two different stories, you do not have the same ability to understand things of life but during the period of almost all the engagements of the world, things seem to be easy, life is more than beautiful, it’s easy to forgive, tolerance is not a problem and it's as if they were in heaven.
If you read the first part of the teaching, you have seen the numbers of divorces in the world. Where is the problem? One of the major causes that destroy households is the wrong choice of the partner.
I'll talk about it in the fifth part based on a biblical example.
Chris Ndikumana
